Ally, a senior at Owasso High School, said the last thing Nex Benedict said to them was, “Happy birthday.”

Nex was involved in a fight at the school on Feb. 7, Ally’s birthday, and then died the next day. Nex’s mother, Sue Benedict, told the Independent that Nex was bullied due to his gender identity. As a result, the 16-year-old’s death has become a rallying cry for LGBTQ activists as Oklahoma and states across the country consider dozens of bills that target the community.

Ally, who uses they/them pronouns and asked to go by first name only to protect their privacy, said in an interview with NBC News that they were close friends with Nex.

“It was one of those things where you meet them and you automatically feel like you’ve known them for years kind of thing,” Ally said ahead of a Sunday vigil for Nex, who they met at the start of the school year. “They were such an adventurous little thing. It was never really a dull moment with them.”

Ally said Nex primarily went by he/him pronouns at school but also used they/them pronouns, which Nex’s family also used. Several other friends said Nex preferred he/him pronouns.

The Owasso Police Department said in a statement Wednesday that preliminary information from an autopsy report shows Nex’s death was not the result of trauma. A toxicology exam is still pending, and an official autopsy will be released later. 

The department released a series of videos Friday that offer a glimpse into the day before the teen’s death, including body camera footage from a police officer’s interview with Nex, where he described how three students “jumped” him after he threw water on them because they were bullying him and his friend. 

Ally and Nex’s friend group would always get in trouble for laughing too loudly, particularly in art class, Ally said. Nex — who was also known by friends as “Roach” or “Roachie” — was a talented artist and could spend 30 minutes working on something that turned out to be a “masterpiece,” Ally said. 

Ally said the minute they saw the news article about an Owasso student dying after a fight, they knew it was Nex because Nex told Ally and other friends in a group chat that he was in a fight.

“They were always someone who was never afraid to be who they are,” Ally said. “It was like wherever they went, you were going to accept them, and if you didn’t, that was your problem, and they were going to make it your problem. They were very confrontational.”

Ally was one of a few people who shared stories about Nex at a vigil Sunday at Redbud Festival Park in Owasso. 

Tyler Wrynn, who was one of Nex’s teachers at the Owasso 8th Grade Center, told NBC News ahead of the vigil that Nex wasn’t on his roster, but “he and a plethora of queer kids were always in my room” because they knew Wrynn offered “a safe space.” 

“Nex was a fiery kid,” Wrynn said. “He would light up a room and jump to defend any of his friends if they were getting picked on.”

Wrynn said during the vigil that his favorite memories of Nex happened every day when he went out for bus duty after school. Nex would yell across the campus, “I’m gonna fight you,” and would challenge Wrynn over “cartoonishly absurd things,” Wrynn said. One day it was winner gets Wrynn’s Ford Mustang. The next it would be if Nex wins, he gets to transfer into Wrynn’s class. 

Among the unanswered questions about Nex and his death is how he identified within the LGBTQ community. Sue Benedict told the Independent that Nex “did not see themselves as male or female. Nex saw themselves right down the middle.” 

Robin Gray, 16, said he dated Nex on and off, and he started his speech at the vigil by clarifying how Nex identified.

“I want to start off by saying that Nex was transgender, and he used he/him pronouns,” Gray said. “He was so much more than his transness.”

Gray said one of his favorite memories of Nex was the first time Nex cooked for him. He made Gray wings with a variety of spices, and the next morning he made pancakes.

Spencer, who only went by first name at the vigil, said he was Nex’s partner and that Nex helped him come out as gay to his parents.  

“He made everything easier,” Spencer said. “He kept energy levels high. He would always keep the room in a good mood. He was always one of the brightest kids in the room, whether he would smile or not.”

Anna Richardson, a local business owner, said she started organizing the vigil after her son, an Owasso senior, told her about what happened to Nex and about bullying that LGBTQ students at the school face. She said they had daily conversations at home about whether the students had a place to process Nex’s death at school, and her son told her, “Nobody feels like they can talk about it or are allowed to talk about it.” 

So, she said, she asked Nex’s family if she could plan a vigil to give the community a place to remember Nex and grieve, and Nex’s great grandmother said yes, though the family didn’t attend.

“It’s important to me that this is a safe place for us to honor a child that senselessly died in our community,” Richardson said ahead of the vigil.

Ally said their once rambunctious group in art class is quieter without Nex. Despite the near-constant news about Nex’s death, Ally said they are in denial. 

“For some reason, it’s like I’m always looking for them wherever I go, even though I was there at the funeral. I watched them be placed in the ground. I was one of the last people to leave,” Ally said. “I always look for them in crowds, and I’m still waiting for them to come back to our class. I do miss them a lot.”