Deb Proctor was at her workplace when she received a call from an unfamiliar number, a call that would unravel the life she thought she knew with her husband.
An investigator on the line revealed a shocking truth to the Oklahoma resident: Her husband, whom she knew as Jeff Walton, was in fact Ronald Stan, a Canadian man who vanished 37 years ago. He had been presumed dead, leaving behind a wife and two children.
“Once I managed to collect myself, I approached my immediate supervisor to explain this strange call,” Proctor shared with Fox News Digital. “My colleagues were deeply concerned for my safety, fearing Jeff might have been in witness protection, and that I had inadvertently exposed him to a stranger posing as an investigator.”
Deb Proctor, once married to Jeff Walton, also known as the missing Ronald Stan, is now sharing her experience through ABC’s series “Betrayal: Secrets & Lies.”
Proctor’s tale is featured in the ABC true crime series “Betrayal: Secrets & Lies.” The series, inspired by the “Betrayal” podcast, delves into stories of individuals across the nation who endure shocking confessions, financial disasters, and acts of violence, among other challenges.
“Deb Proctor’s story presents a remarkable insight into what unfolds when someone close to you leads a double life,” said Andrea Gunning, host of the “Betrayal” podcast, to Fox News Digital. “What struck me most about Deb’s story was not only the extent of Jeff’s deceit but also Deb’s deeply human journey of rebuilding her life after the truth emerged.”
It was 1998 when Proctor, a 41-year-old divorcee and mother of two sons, was ready to meet someone new. She decided to join a dating site, where she came across Walton, an Ohio State graduate and former football player who traveled and played golf — a passion of hers. She was intrigued.
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After a year of talking, they decided to meet in person. When Walton stepped off the plane and saw Proctor, he asked, “You will marry me, won’t you?”
Walton moved in a few months later. They married in 2000.
“I felt like this was a person that I loved very much,” Proctor said. “I could see us traveling together, creating a life together. I felt hopeful about the future.”
Jeff Walton and Deb Proctor married on April 23, 2000. (Courtesy of Deb Proctor)
But a year into their marriage, Walton was struggling to find work. That’s when he told her for the first time that he was a Vietnam War veteran. According to the podcast, Walton claimed that at age 18, he served in the Special Forces when he was captured and held prisoner. For months, he was tortured before eventually escaping by following a stream.
“[As a nurse] I had some experience working with Vietnam vets and PTSD,” Proctor said. “It really tugged at my heart. He had also uprooted his life, given up his job as a project manager at a large industrial construction company, given up everything just to be with me. He had given up everything for love.”
Proctor’s seemingly happily ever after was disrupted. Walton, who was unemployed, suffered a heart attack requiring ongoing care. The couple struggled to cover his medical expenses. Proctor, who had worked at the VA years earlier, tried to convince her husband to seek help as the bills piled up. But he refused to get healthcare, insisting he was dishonorably discharged and wouldn’t be listed.
“Betrayal: Secrets & Lies” airs Sundays at 10 p.m., with episodes streaming the next day on Disney+ and Hulu. (ABC News)
“I was dumbfounded,” Proctor admitted. “That’s the biggest moment when I thought, ‘Something’s not right here.’ I couldn’t put my finger on it. I just kept insisting on going to the VA so he could get healthcare. We were going to go broke. It was just a 30-minute drive to the nearest facility. But he looked at me strangely and said, ‘I’m not going. I was in Special Forces. Because of what I witnessed and what I reported, my actions were illegal and unethical. They won’t have me listed anywhere.’”
“I kept saying to him, ‘You’ve served your country. There are records somewhere,’” Proctor continued. “But he said, ‘I will not get government healthcare.’ He got up and walked away.”
Confused, Proctor considered hiring a private investigator. But after realizing she couldn’t afford one, she put her feelings aside.
Despite Deb Proctor’s happiness, her friends became suspicious of Jeff Walton, who appeared too good to be true. Despite claiming to love golf, he struggled to play the game. (Courtesy of Deb Proctor)
Shortly after Walton’s heart attack, he had a stroke. Then he began exhibiting signs of dementia. The medical bills continued mounting into the thousands. Proctor was his primary caretaker while working full time as a nurse to make ends meet. She began drinking to cope with the stress. As Walton’s memory worsened, she was able to place him in a funded outpatient care facility.
In 2014, Proctor received a phone call from a detective in Canada. Investigators were probing the cold case of Ronald Stan and were able to track him down through social media, according to the podcast.
In September 1977, a barn fire killed several pigs. Stan, then 32, disappeared. Although human remains were never found, Stan was declared legally dead in 1986. However, the case was reopened in 2014. Using modern investigative technology, the Ontario Provincial Police discovered that Stan was alive and living in a rural part of the Cherokee Nation in Oklahoma under a new name, “Jeff Walton.” He later admitted the truth to police.
Jeff Walton, also known as Ronald Stan, had disappeared from Canada 37 years earlier when investigators discovered his identity. His previous wife and children believed he had died in a fire. (Courtesy of Deb Proctor)
“I thought to myself, ‘Oh my gosh, I’ve just spilled my guts, and now I’m in danger, he’s in danger,’” Proctor said about the phone call. “I felt like I was in somebody’s movie. I thought, ‘Who am I? Who was I married to this entire time?’ I was outside of my consciousness.”
Proctor immediately went to the Cherokee Nation Marshals Service. After an investigator made several phone calls, she confirmed that every detail was true. Stan had faked his death in a fire, abandoning his wife and two children.
Proctor stayed with a friend and immediately filed for divorce.
Jeff Walton took his name from his son and the classic American TV show “The Waltons.” (Courtesy of Deb Proctor)
“I did love him,” she admitted. “But it was all an illusion. He was not the man I thought I married. Nothing was real.”
Proctor said that Walton, now identified as Stan, made numerous calls to her and repeatedly tried to text her. She said that in one voicemail, Stan told her, “If you want to play hardball, then come on.” He also tried contacting one of her sons and emailed several of her friends and colleagues.
Jeff Walton, known as Ronald Stan, was discovered by investigators in a nursing home. (Courtesy of Deb Proctor)
“I had nothing else to say to him,” Proctor said. “But I was frightened. I remember walking out of my home and into the woods, where there was a worn-down pathway with a small seating area. I also noticed lots of cigarette butts. I don’t know. I just thought he was coming back to harm us. What if he was preparing to burn our home down because I knew about him burning down his place in Canada?”
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Deb Proctor and Jeff Walton are seen here enjoying Christmas together. She had no idea of his past life. (Courtesy of Deb Proctor)
She also wondered whether he was planning another escape.
According to the podcast, the statute of limitations for arson had expired in Canada. It also noted that too much time had passed for Stan to face identity fraud charges in the U.S.
In the series, Proctor said that Stan never apologized. The calls stopped, and she never heard from him again. In 2019, Proctor said his son reached out to her to say that his father had died.
Deb Proctor met Jeff Walton on a dating site and quickly fell for him. He left Kentucky to be with her. (Courtesy of Deb Proctor)
Today, Proctor supports victims of domestic violence in her community. She also remarried a longtime friend and fellow golf enthusiast.
“I never intended to do this again,” she said with a laugh. “But the gentleman I married, Richard, is absolutely the sweetest, kindest, most loving person I’ve ever known in my life. It’s a love that I’ve never experienced before. It’s genuine.”
If there’s one message Proctor hopes audiences take away, it’s this: Don’t ignore that nagging feeling.
Deb Proctor is seen here today. She has since remarried. (ABC News)
“Pathological liars, they’re a dime a dozen,” she said. “They walk among us. Some people fall for them more than others, but it can happen to any one of us. If something doesn’t feel right, dig out the truth.”
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