For many people, a years-long affair with a married man might be something kept off the record, but for Maria Bello, it served as a starting point for frank conversations about infidelity. In her 2015 book, “Whatever…Love is Love,” she details her passionate love affair with another actor. She never names him, but she pens intimate details about their time together, all while noting their clandestine affair wasn’t meant to last. Bello writes, “As much as I liked the secrecy, passion, and the drama, I liked living life in the open much more.”
Of the relationship, Bello said to NPR, “You know, I’m not proud to say I had an affair, but I don’t negate it either.” Seeing her former flame acting on screen the same way he did with her in real life made her cringe. “He was playing a Harlequin romance,” she mused. “But I want to take responsibility too and say, I was too.” Despite any queasy feelings she may have about her affair, Bello has used the experience to contemplate the deeper meaning of the behavior. Talking with HuffPost, Bello said a bigger conversation about extramarital affairs needs to be had and she hopes sharing her personal story does just that.