“I feel like when women say they feel uncomfortable or stop their spouse from going to the gym, it’s an insult to the man. 

In my view, if I choose to join a gym to work on my fitness and it effectively fulfills its purpose while yielding noticeable results, then men in fitted attire or with exposed chests wouldn’t concern me. 

We’re adults. When I look at my husband, I feel attracted to him, I want to eat him up! But I also see men in offices who may be more physically attractive, yet I don’t feel the same way about them. Even if they walk around naked, it would irritate me. Let no one say women aren’t attracted to looks. My childhood crush was a fine man, and I used to admire his tuxedos and the way he walked so gallantly. Women do love men’s bodies, a lot of us do. Even if you want to say it’s money women love more, I work with people richer than my husband, should I leave the work cos they could make me fall? 

But I won’t stop working, or going to the gym just because men expose their bodies, or have more money. And let’s be real, it’s not only women whose bodies are exposed in the gym. Men too, with their tight pants and open chests, they’re saying a lot with that look. 

I’d feel insulted if my husband told me not to go somewhere that helps me heal my body just because there are men there showing skin. I’m not a child. I know the commitment I made with my husband, and I’ll respect that with everything in me. So why would I go to the gym and lose focus because of people doing the same thing I came there to do? 

When a woman says she’s scared that her husband is around women exposing body at the gym, it’s because the man has given her a reason to doubt his faithfulness. It also means she feels he’s not self-aware enough to remember who he married, or wise enough to know where to keep it. A man whose wife can’t trust him in a gym filled with women shouldn’t be trusted with leadership, power, or higher responsibility in the world.