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In a cozy Sydney apartment, Vibha Gulati gazes at an old photograph of her late mother, Bhusan, a treasured relic of their past.
“She was truly incredible, full of compassion and love,” Gulati recalls, noting how people often sought her mother’s advice, attracted by her wisdom and innate kindness.
As immigrants from India, Gulati and her mother shared their home in the western part of the city for 35 years, celebrating their deep connection.
“We were like sisters, sharing thoughts and emotions. It was as if we could sync our minds perfectly,” she explained.

However, their bond was challenged when her mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, with doctors estimating only six months left.

Three women smile at camera in a sepia coloured photograph.

(Left to right) Prabha Gulati with her mother, Bhusan, and sister, Vibha. Source: Supplied / Vibha Gulati

“It was shocking, really shocking. I was losing my best friend! We loved each other very much and she’s greatly missed,” Gulati said.

From loss to healing

After losing her mother to cancer, Gulati turned to The Violet Initiative — a not-for-profit organisation, providing information and support to people in Australia to navigate the last stages of life and the grief that accompanies it.
“The [counselling] guide [at Violet] helped me to navigate the grief I was feeling,” Gulati said.
“The loss was so great and it came in waves. Often, I thought I was alright and then suddenly I would be crying.

“I felt the guide really understood and held the space [for me] and did not negate any feelings that I had.”

A woman in a yellow jumper sitting at a table using a mobile phone.

Vibha Gulati used the Violet counselling service after she lost her mother to cancer. Source: SBS / Spencer Austad

Gulati is not alone. In recent years, almost 30,000 people have utilised Violet and its national network of guides, along with a digital support service.

Violet CEO Melissa Reader said: “People come to us saying, ‘I just do not know where to start’.”
“A common theme is: ‘My mum is in her late eighties, and dad died a couple of years ago. I’m the eldest daughter stepping into a caregiving role. I’m managing my own family and a career and I’m completely overwhelmed’,” she said.

“So [we] try to help families and communities be more prepared around the last stages of a person’s life.”

A woman in a blue blazer stands in an office facing camera.

Violet CEO Melissa Reader said the initiative aims to start conversations around end-of-life planning. Source: SBS / Spencer Austad

As Australia’s population ages, services like Violet are becoming increasingly crucial.

More than 180,000 Australians die each year, yet many leave behind no will or clear instructions about their end-of-life choices — forcing families to navigate both grief and complex legal processes.
“Up to 90 per cent of us want to be cared for at home for as long as possible with our family and our friends and everything that’s familiar to us, and the right services and supports. But that is not what’s playing out today,” Reader said.
“We see people having at least four hospital admissions through the last 12 months, around 33 or 34 days, and we see one in two Australians dying in hospital. That is our least preferred place to die.”

A 2024 report by The Violet Initiative reveals that a significant portion of public hospital beds is used by predominantly elderly patients in their final year of life, with the cost of end-of-life care in hospitals approaching $4 billion annually.
Reader said that figure is forecast to rise.
“We have about 12,000 people turning 85 each year today. In five years, that is forecast to increase fivefold to 60,000 people. And our health and age care systems are already at capacity,” she said.
Reader’s husband Mauro died of cancer aged just 39, leaving her to raise their three children alone. She understands how hard it can be to face critical care decisions.
“We were completely unprepared for Mauro’s death. He died in intensive care and it was a very clinical and impersonal experience and quite frightening for all of us, including him,” she said.
“I really needed help to know how to bring him into a conversation [about his illness] in a way that was okay that he could manage.

“Then, we could have done so much more together in the last six months of his life, with far fewer regrets for all of us.”

A woman looks at a small child she is holding while a man standing next to her wearing a dark denim jacket and sunnies looks at the camera.

Melissa Reader (centre) with her late husband, Mauro, and their daughter, Mya. Source: Supplied / Melissa Reader

Turning pain into purpose
Reader said her husband’s sudden death — and the lack of preparedness to deal with the emotional aftermath — inspired her to expand services to ease burdens for others facing a similar situation.
In 2020, Reader relaunched an existing platform as Violet, a not-for-profit and social enterprise. The online resource aims to help more people navigate the end-of-life journey.
“Violet is the last colour of the day and the first colour of the dawn. So it’s a really lovely reference to the passing of time,” she explained.
“I don’t think we can pretend to wave a magic wand and say everybody will have a death at home and it’s going to be incredibly easy. This is not an easy stage of life. It’s very complex, it’s very emotional and there’s a lot of uncertainty.
“However, we would like to help people stay in their homes for longer with the right services and support and help families prepare, if their loved one wants to die at home.”

For those seeking support, Violet offers an initial free consultation, and services are then available via subscription.

A woman in a blue top stands smiling at camera.

Mitch Gibson offers personal counselling at Violet. Source: SBS / Spencer Austad

Mitch Gibson is among Violet’s 50 guides and is proud to provide personal care and support to grieving families.

Like most Violet volunteers, she has struggled to cope with personal loss.
“I was trying to run my own small business, a yoga studio, and then my dad was diagnosed with dementia and my life partner, Mark, was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer,” she said.
“And to say that my world flipped upside down is an understatement.”

That was 11 years ago, but for Gibson the memories remain vivid and the eventual loss of her partner led to a life-changing decision.
A man in a black zipper is standing outside next to a smiling woman with auburn hair.

Mitch Gibson with her late partner Mark, who died of pancreatic cancer. Source: Supplied / Mitch Gibson

“I was only 56 years old, and I decided I wanted to work as a grief and bereavement counsellor and care for carers. As I had lived experience, Violet was an ideal choice,” Gibson said.

“These are the conversations I want to be having. This is the help I want to be offering. I didn’t ask for this to happen to me, but it did.
“I am someone who has cared [for a dying person], and someone who has grieved. So why not use that to help someone else?”
Violet also offers an AI-enabled digital companion that provides personalised support in multiple languages to people in need.
Yaniv Bernstein, Violet’s chief product and technology officer, said: “What we have is a really clever, voice-based artificial intelligence agent that talks to people in the manner of a normal conversation.”

“Conversations can happen at any time, in any preferred language. The result is a clear understanding of a person’s current situation, their stage, and their specific needs,” Bernstein explained.

‘This has to change’
Violet chair Kate Carnell warns Australia is facing a looming crisis in how it handles death and dying. She said the country is dangerously unprepared — emotionally, socially and economically — for the realities of end-of-life care.
“We are sleepwalking into this century’s biggest economic and social crisis. Research indicates that eight to 11 per cent of Australia’s total health budget is spent on people in their final stage of life,” she said.
“As well, only 14 per cent of Australians have a plan in place for the end of life. This has to change!

“Digital technology plays an important role in making services and information available to all Australians when they need it 24/7. And that’s what Violet is providing.”

A portrait of a young woman with black hair.

A portrait of Vibha Gulati’s mother, Bhusan, as a young woman. Source: Supplied / Vibha Gulati

Gulati and her mother were among the few who carefully planned for the end of life.

After her diagnosis, Bhusan refused medical treatment and chose voluntary assisted dying (VAD) at home in the care of her daughters, Prabha and Vibha.
“It was important for her. She opted for VAD because she wanted control over her death and the whole process of her illness,” Gulati said.
“She did not want any chemotherapy or radiation. Surgery was an option, but that was also refused.
“She managed herself quite well. She was ill during the final week and could not lift herself up from the bed. But until the week she passed away, my mother was going out to cafes and restaurants.”
Gulati said faith — a mix of Buddhist, Hindu and spiritual beliefs — helped the family respectfully bid farewell to her mother in December last year.
“We had chanting here while she was passing away. We did Indian mantras infused with spiritual energy,” she said.

“It helped her to transition more smoothly and it also created a very calming effect on the mind and on the emotions. So, it works for the people involved and the person who’s passing away too.”
A woman in a yellow jumper stands on a balcony above a garden.

Vibha Gulati is still learning to cope with grief after losing her mother. Source: SBS / Spencer Austad

While faith has helped Gulati navigate grief, she said the loss remains painful and hard to bear.

“I can feel her presence around me sometimes. So, it’s really, really lovely. But that loss is still there and it takes a long time to adjust to,” she said.
“However, my spiritual belief gives me strength and gives me trust that I will meet her again and that she has not gone forever.”
Support is available through LifeLine on 13 11 14 or Griefline which provides confidential support on 1300 845 745 and via griefline.org.au
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