Enduring IVF is already solitary; combined with Melbourne’s COVID-19 lockdown restrictions, it felt even more isolating.

Thankfully, the experience changed when we moved clinics.

Phil and Angela at one of the many egg collections. Source: Supplied

Leaning into the role

My silence was the cost, and I wasn’t sure where I could ‘put’ my emotions.

From my perspective, it appears male partners are sometimes seen as peripheral in this scenario; I felt there was minimal space to express what I was experiencing.

Talking openly about IVF

I think it’s important that we openly talk about IVF — so people understand how to show up.

When Ange shared our journey online, many people responded with their stories. It was therapeutic for us and seemingly for them too.

A wake-up call

Jimi is my biggest accomplishment out of anything I’ve ever achieved, and wrapping my arms around him is the greatest joy of my life.

Phil and Angela with their two-year-old son Jimi. Source: Supplied

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel the mental toll. Difficult memories pop up sometimes and I try to push them down.