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The parents of 21-year-old Lilie James, who was murdered inside a bathroom of a Sydney private school by her ex-boyfriend in 2023, spoke briefly outside court to issue a heartfelt plea.
“Please don’t report on positive comments, saying people are ‘good blokes, men, delightful’,” Lilie’s father Jamie James said.
“It’s not acceptable, it’s disheartening and it’s cruel.”
“Lilie had her life cut way too short and not a day goes by that we don’t think of her, or wonder what we could have done to prevent this from happening,” Jamie said.

“If it’s been a while since you’ve discussed violence or abuse against women—whether at home, at work, with friends, or in your community—please start that conversation,” urges a poignant call to action.

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In 2023, Lilie James, a dedicated water polo coach at St. Andrew’s Cathedral School in Sydney, lost her life at the hands of her ex-boyfriend. Her tragic death has sparked important discussions about domestic violence.

During a recent court proceeding, New South Wales state coroner Teresa O’Sullivan highlighted the profound impact of Lilie’s family, particularly her mother, Peta, and a family member named Jamie. “Their love and grief are a powerful presence in this court,” she remarked, emphasizing the emotional weight carried by those left behind.

O’Sullivan’s findings reflected the importance of the James family’s request to refrain from “positive” reporting on alleged perpetrators of domestic or gendered violence in her formal recommendations.
“Media entities that report on intimate partner homicides should recognise that describing violence as being ‘out of character‘ … may reinforce unhelpful community stereotypes,” O’Sullivan said.

O’Sullivan expressed hope that Peta’s heartfelt message, combined with the lessons drawn from this tragedy, would resonate beyond the confines of the courtroom, aiming to instigate meaningful change in society.

The coroner also criticized the failure to recognize such homicides within the broader context of previous coercive control, underscoring the need for a deeper understanding of the dynamics that often precede domestic violence.

O’Sullivan did not propose recommendations to any specific agency but outlined “lessons that may be learnt from this tragic case”.
She said education and information is needed to “identify and respond to coercive controlling behaviours, in particular emerging forms of technology-facilitated abuse”, with the inquest hearing Thijssen was using apps like Snapchat to harass and stalk Lilie in the days before her death.
“Individuals should be encouraged to actively consider their use of technology, and the need to share their location with others”, O’Sullivan said, emphasising a “need to target 16 to 24-year-olds”.

The coroner also recommended education and programs to raise community awareness, and advice services targeting young men to promote respectful and healthy relationship behaviour.

James was 21 when she ended her “brief relationship” with Thijssen, 23, just days before he “killed Lilie in a bathroom at St Andrew’s using a hammer”.
“Evidence indicates that Paul physically stalked Lilie on seven occasions, he carefully planned his attack and in the hours before the attack, he rehearsed the attack,” the coroner’s findings read.
“The preparation was calculated and was not a momentary loss of control. It was a premeditated killing.”
James “died from multiple blunt force injuries to the head and neck”, the coroner found.

After killing James, Thijssen “jumped or intentionally [fell] from the cliff at Diamond Bay Reserve in Vaucluse with the intention of ending his life”.

The court heard “Lilie and Paul are the youngest case” of intimate partner violence homicide-suicide in the dataset compiled by the Domestic Violence Death Review Team (DVDRT) established in 2010 under the Coroners Act 2009.
“I conclude by acknowledging the alarming and persistent scourge of gendered violence and domestic violence in Australia,” O’Sullivan said.
“Lilie’s death is not an isolated tragedy; it is part of a devastating pattern of violence against women that demands urgent and sustained action.”
She also acknowledged the grief felt by the parents and families of both James and Thijssen.
If you or someone you know is impacted by family and domestic violence, call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732, text 0458 737 732, or visit 1800RESPECT.org.au. In an emergency, call 000.
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