“[Jamison Bachman] went from being this cordial, polite person who understood he was a guest in my house to someone who was approaching me aggressively and flat-out saying, ‘This is my house now,’” claimed Melissa Frost in 2018 (via New York Magazine).

Frost details how a dispute over Bachman’s kitchen appliances almost escalated to the point of violence. As she explains (via YouTube), Frost wanted to photograph various rooms in her house, though Bachman’s microwave and coffee maker ruined the look of her minimalist kitchen. Eventually, Frost decided to take the items to Bachman’s room, but he confronted her at his bedroom door and pushed her back to the top of the stairs. Frost believes that Bachman (pictured above) would have pushed her down the steps if her friend hadn’t appeared at the foot of the staircase at that very moment. Frost was so shaken by the incident that she called the cops on her abusive roommate.

In the days that followed, Bachman came to blame Frost for the disappearance of one of his cats, using the incident to ramp up hostilities between the two of them. “DO NOT COMMUNICATE WITH ME AGAIN UNLESS IT IS THROUGH YOUR ATTORNEY,” he wrote to her, according to New York Magazine. Frost continued to try and convince Bachman to leave. However, he dug his heels in and creepily tried to reconcile Frost to the fact he had taken her home from her, saying: “You’ve got your whole life in front of you. You’re pretty, and you’re talented, and you’ve got this house — well, you don’t have this house anymore. This house is my house.”

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