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In the world of veterinary care, Anupam stands out not just as a locum veterinarian but also as the heart behind a palliative care service dedicated to pets. Her dual role offers a unique blend of medical expertise and emotional support, ensuring that families receive comprehensive care for their beloved animals.

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Reflecting on her initial 15 years in clinical practice, Anupam realized something crucial was missing. While her technical skills were sharp, the holistic care she aspired to provide seemed incomplete. The fast-paced demands of a typical veterinary clinic left little room for the emotional support and thorough attention that pet owners needed alongside their pets’ medical care.

As a vet, I see the emotional connection that people have with their animals every day.
And I have the same bond with my own two girls, Nisha and Ruby. My dogs are not like my children; they are my children.
I was never trained to look after people, only their pets.

This realization led her to forge a path where she could serve as both a clinical guide and an emotional ally to families, advocating for their pets’ health while attending to the human aspect of pet ownership. For Anupam, it was about more than just treating an animal; it was about supporting the whole family unit during challenging times.

A vet (a woman with a black high ponytail and in black scrubs) listened to the chest of a black Labrador using a red stethoscope in a vet room.

Her approach not only addresses the physical ailments of the pets but also offers a comforting presence to the families, ensuring they do not feel alone in the journey. This dedication to a more holistic method of practice is what sets Anupam apart, making her a cherished figure in the lives of those she assists.

In my first 15 years of clinical practice, I didn’t have enough time to care for pet parents as well.

The limited time for consultations restricted me to being a veterinary clinician only — just diagnosing and treating conditions.
I felt I didn’t have the capacity to adequately educate people on how their pets’ diagnoses would affect their own lives and their human-animal bond.

Practising this way didn’t feel holistic and I wanted to do more.

So, in 2024, I started my own mobile veterinary palliative care service. I still work as a locum vet but also visit the homes of people who need extra support with their pets.
From post-surgery recovery management to end-of-life support, I help pet parents access allied health services and liaise with their regular vet so they can provide the best care possible for their pet.

Essentially, I provide a clinical perspective and emotional support to families while serving as their pet’s medical advocate.

Nursing animals like humans

The anticipatory grief that I see in people when their pet is terminally ill is palpable.
Many pet parents nurse their animals in the same way they would a human family member.
They hand-feed them, medicate them, clean up after them and take them to medical appointments.
Some will even take time off work to spend more time with their unwell animals.

It is a difficult process to watch someone you love fade towards the end of their life, and I believe the responsibility of deciding when to say goodbye weighs heavily on most.

‘Don’t want kids, don’t want to get married’

I’ve never wanted kids, but people always said, ‘wait till you get older, wait till you get older’.
The older I get, the more affirmed I am in my decision: don’t want kids, don’t want to get married.

I’m quite happy to be single with dogs and enjoy life with them.

I’ve had a turbulent life in many respects, and I feel that dogs have shown me more humanity than some people have.
They keep me grounded, humble and softened. They help me with my anxiety and when I have particularly rough days, they remind me what living is truly about.
My girls have provided me with unconditional love and support in times when I’ve needed it most.

Their love feeds my soul, and they’ve saved me more than once.

A grief plan

But the flip side to such pure love is profound grief.
As the girls get older, I feel the anticipatory grief.
It is likely that I will outlive them, and I simply cannot imagine this.

Coming back from work to an empty apartment will just not feel like home anymore.

a side by side image. left: a woman with long black and and a black dog touch foreheads. right: a selfie of the same woman and dog cuddle on the couch

Anupam says her dog Nisha is her soulmate. Source: Supplied

I have a grief plan in place for when my dogs die, because I really don’t think I will be okay.

My friends and chosen family know to enlist professional medical and psychological assistance for me when the time comes.
In my work, I have witnessed many people access psychologists and GPs for support and medication when grieving a pet’s death.

For many, it’s not so different from grieving a human.

I believe it’s about who we are, not what we are, at the end of the day.
We have limited time with the amazing pure souls that are pets — so it’s important to cherish every moment with them.
Our pets see the best in us, so be the person your pet sees in you.
Readers seeking crisis support can contact Lifeline on 13 11 14, the Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 and Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 (for young people aged up to 25). More information and support with mental health is available at beyondblue.org.au and on 1300 22 4636.  
Griefline provides confidential support on 1300 845 745 and via griefline.org.au.

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