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For a fleeting moment, she considered retreating. Instead, she chose to engage him in conversation.
This was an encounter she never anticipated when Alan passed away earlier this year, leaving her to navigate life—and eventually travel—on her own.
Shortly after his passing, she discovered a unique walking and singing tour in the French Alps, and she knew it was the perfect opportunity. Although she had traveled solo before, this would mark her first solo journey since losing Alan.
Judi Tarn and Alan had shared 45 years of marriage, with their shared love for travel serving as a cornerstone of their life together.
“This was my first trip without knowing what to expect,” Tarn admitted. “I was absolutely terrified.”
“Travel is such a wonderful experience. You shouldn’t let being alone deter you from going,” she added.
Why more older women are travelling on their own
“It reflects a growing trend of older women looking for meaningful travel experiences, and they’re turning to small-group trips as a safe and supportive way to explore the world on their own terms with other like-minded travellers,” Mitchell told SBS News.
“This is one of the biggest trends in travel that has largely been ignored,” she told SBS News.
The emotional whiplash of travelling after loss
“But they might feel deep sorrow their partner isn’t there to enjoy it with them … and might experience some loneliness.”
“You can keep your deceased spouse alive in your mind,” she said. “If you see a beautiful cafe that your deceased loved one would have loved — go there. Speak out loud to them. Don’t bottle it up.”
There are more women like Judi Tarn, with data from Intrepid Travel showing a 21 per cent jump year on year in travellers aged 50+ choosing to travel alone. Source: Supplied / Judi Tarn
For Tarn, that’s become instinctive.
“I can almost feel as if he’s pedalling along behind me, going, ‘Look at this – isn’t it wonderful?’,” she said.
‘It made me feel like an Amazon’
“There can be a sense of achievement and self-sufficiency when older women realise that they can do this on their own — and have enjoyable moments on their own, too,” she said.
It just made me think: I can do anything now. It made me feel different when I got back.
Judi Tarn, solo traveller