My husband destroyed my self-esteem with his 'innocent' secret
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Dear Jana,

For more than a year, my partner has struggled to maintain an erection, which has significantly impacted our sex life. I initially thought it was because he didn’t find me attractive, and when I questioned him, he hardly denied it. 

Recently, while searching for our spare phone charger in his bedside drawer, I discovered some pills I hadn’t seen before. After Googling them, I found out they were for male pattern hair loss, with many articles indicating a link to erectile dysfunction as a side effect. Given the nearly empty bottle, it’s clear he’s been using them for some time, leading me to wrongly assume our bedroom issues were because of me rather than his receding hairline. I’m furious! 

How can I bring up the topic without it seeming like I was snooping through his belongings? It’s a relief to know, but I’m having a hard time dealing with the deceit.

Help!

Anonymous

Oh anonymous,

This will be the simplest answer I’ve ever given, and I can sum it up in one word… divorce. Yes, divorce that man. How dare he make you feel unattractive all because he’s vain about his bloody chrome dome.

Jana Hocking gives her trademark sassy advice to three Aussies needing help with their love lives - or lack of

Jana Hocking gives her trademark sassy advice to three Aussies needing help with their love lives – or lack of 

We women already have to deal with periods, pregnancy and perimenopause, and now this man wants to throw ‘unattractive’ onto the pile of shit we’re already dealing with.

No. At the very least he deserves a good metaphorical spanking. (Not a real one, we never condone violence people!) And I wouldn’t give two hoots if he arced up about you going through his drawers, throw the damn pill packet in his direction and scream ‘WTF?’.

Sure, we’re all vain about something. I mean, I’ve got a five-finger forehead that could signal aliens in outer space if they strapped a radar to my head, but do you see me negging men because I’m insecure about it? No. I just jolly well get on with it.

This man allowing you too feel insecure because of his insecurity is infuriating, and he deserves a good talking to. So say ‘not today Satan!’ and make it clear that it’s not ok for him to project his insecurities on to you. Full stop.

Dear Jana,

I’ve been chatting with a married guy on LinkedIn after meeting him on a cruise with my kids. I’m a newly single mom and saved up to take my child on this trip. While on board, we connected with another family, and our kids became friends, so we ended up having dinners together.

One night, after a long day of fun, his wife took their kids (and my daughter) back to their cabin for a slumber party. He and I stayed at the bar for a nightcap, and things got a little flirty, but we kept it harmless. Now that we’re back home, he’s following me on LinkedIn. My friends think he chose that platform because his wife is less likely to check it.

I really enjoy our conversations, but I can’t shake the feeling that it could lead to trouble. I’d like to stay friends, but is it risky? What do you think?

Anonymous

Ahh yes, the platform that sneaky cheaters flock to for a little flirtation – I know it all too well.

Your friends are bang on with their opinions. This guy knows that if his wife is looking to catch him out, Instagram and Facebook are her first stops. But ‘LinkedIn is a career networking app, for goodness’ sake,’ as my dodgy ex-boyfriend once put it.

'There are no rules in the game of love; it's all about what makes you feel comfortable,' Jana says

‘There are no rules in the game of love; it’s all about what makes you feel comfortable,’ Jana says

Spoiler alert: he was up to no good.

A quick Google search will reveal countless articles suggesting that LinkedIn has become the new dating app, and I have to agree. I’d suggest passing off that holiday flirtation as a one-time thing and focus on finding a million other available men to befriend (or more). And definitely steer clear of this one – there’s nothing scarier than a scorned wife. Trust me.

Dear Jana,

I hope you can help me out. After 17 years of marriage, I find myself back in the dating world, and honestly, I’m feeling lost. Things have changed a lot since my last date! How do women prefer to be dated these days? Back then, I’d just call their home phone and take them out to dinner. Now, these dating apps seem like a whole new ballgame and I’m finding them overwhelming.

I’m really just looking for a nice woman to settle down with, but I keep hearing that I should be dating multiple women and that drinks are the way to go instead of dinner. I could really use some advice on how to navigate this new dating scene as a guy in his late forties. Any tips for this old fuddy-duddy would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks,

Roger

Roger, Roger, Roger, welcome to the modern dating era! You’ll love (**cough cough, hate) it here. My first bit of advice is to stop listening to everyone else and date however the heck you want.

If you want to invite a lovely lady out for a nice meal, then go for it! If you prefer to date one woman at a time, I give you a mighty thumbs up. There are no rules in the game of love; it’s all about what makes you feel comfortable.

But take it slow. This isn’t a race to find the next Mrs. Roger. You might be feeling a little lonely and lost in the world of single life, but rushing to fill that void often leads to bad decisions. So, the first step is to get comfortable being alone. Figure out who you are without a woman on your arm, and you’ll have a better idea of the kind of person you could happily spend the rest of your life with.

So why not date a few women – one at a time if you like? Just like Goldilocks took her time figuring out which porridge she liked best, take your time to get to know each woman’s personality and see who works best with yours.

Get out there, stud, and remember: dates are supposed to be fun, not job interviews!

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