Why single men aren't approaching women in person anymore

In today’s world of online dating, many singles, especially women, often express frustration that people are now less likely to approach someone they’re interested in face-to-face.

A model from North Carolina, who has not been on a date for almost a year, attributes her attractiveness to discouraging men from initiating a conversation with her.

“It’s difficult being this hot,” the single woman told Jam Press. “Men think I’m too beautiful to date or worry that I’ll turn them down.”


Young people flirting at a bar.
Women are frustrated that men rarely approach them in public anymore. nullplus – stock.adobe.com

Other women — as explained in this Reddit thread — blame men for not knowing how to appropriately approach women out in the wild.

“… I believe men can engage in non-sexual conversations with women… It’s surprising how some guys fail to realize that we are people with full lives, capable of discussing topics other than physical appearance. If they can’t hold a respectful discussion, then they should not approach.”

Another opinionated comment in the same thread said, “The men who care about not making women uncomfortable don’t talk to us anymore because they think hello is enough to upset us. The men who don’t care if we’re uncomfortable don’t care, they still approach. The wrong men stopped talking to us.”


Friends enjoying a night out at a nightclub.
There are several different theories on why men don’t take this approach anymore. bernardbodo – stock.adobe.com

A recent video of a woman dressed for a night out, openly sharing her frustrations, hoping an eligible guy would chat her up, made its way to X. The clip has gone viral — and caused quite a stir online.

It’s hard to decipher what exactly she’s saying in the video, but it sounds like, “A man better pay attention to me tonight. I’m so f—ing sick of this s–t,” she said in the video. “…it’s very f—ing simple.”

This gave plenty of people an opportunity to chime in with their controversial thoughts on the subject.

“Men aren’t scared. They’re numb. Approaching women, in the past, was a sacred expression of courage, humor, risk, and play. Now? It’s suspect,” one tweet read in response to this woman’s declaration.

“The media has manipulated everyone into perceiving a man approaching a woman in public as taboo,” another person wrote, trying to explain why men are no longer going up to women in public to buy them a drink or get their name.

“They’re cowards,” quipped someone else, clearly blaming men.

“They would just call us creeps,” read another tweet in response.

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