A psychoanalyst, known as a ‘crusader in the mommy wars,’ has stirred controversy by asserting that parents should experience guilt for sending their kids to daycare.
Erica Komisar, 61, who has amassed a following of over 300,000 on Instagram, aims to guide individuals toward ‘living their best lives and nurturing healthier children.’
Despite her positive mission, she doesn’t shy away from critiquing modern parenting, often labeling parents as ‘p***ies’ and accusing mothers of neglecting the essential bonding with their children.
Komisar has also voiced her disapproval of daycare centers, describing them as mere ‘warehouses for children’ and suggesting that mothers who rely on these facilities lack empathy for their young ones.
Having worked with high-profile figures like Kourtney Kardashian, Komisar is currently on a book tour, where she expresses her disagreement with childcare policies endorsed by socialist New York City Mayor, Zohran Mamdani.
Mayor Mamdani is actively pursuing the creation of free daycare options for children aged six weeks to five years.
‘We’ve told mothers, ”There is no discomfort. You shouldn’t feel any discomfort in raising children,” she told The Free Press.
Komisar would rather the government paid parents to be able to take care of their own children.
Erica Komisar is an influencer with more than 300,000 Instagram followers who says she wants to help parents ‘live their best lives and raise healthier children’
However, she is also tough on modern parents, often referring to them as ‘p***ies’ and calling out how modern moms do not securely attach to their children. She also calls out what she sees as the inefficiency of daycare centers, saying they are merely ‘warehouses for children’
‘If you give some of that money – let’s say you give $20,000 or $18,000 – to the families to use as they see fit, they’ll find a better way to care for their children,’ she said.
She pitches that the stipend would allow the families to either take the money and stay parenting at home, or pay a trusted neighbor or grandparent with the money to take care of them.
Komisar said that if they go to a daycare center, they’ll only be taken care of by a ‘transient stranger’ who can’t give them the attention they need, because they have to care for so many children at once.
‘There’s no way for one person to meet the distress of five or eight or 12 children,’ she said.
She argues that this has legitimate negative medical effects on young children when their needs can’t be met.
‘Their cortisol levels are high, which it is not meant to be in those early years. And so a lot of those children go into silent mode.’
Komisar added that its hard for Americans to get on board with her preferred policies.
‘The brand of capitalism that is American capitalism,’ she said, forces women into a ‘work at all costs’ mentality.
Komisar said that much of her book tours are in an attempt to fight policies like the ones promoted by socialist New York City Mayor Zohran Mamdani
Mamdani is currently working on establishing free daycare for children from six weeks to five years old
She has also angered feminists in the past, saying that mothers are told to ‘think of themselves first.’
‘Many people that work for me have tried to curb how I describe things but it is the way I describe things,’ she said.
Komisar, who is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, took six months off after the births of each of her children.
She then returned to work for just one and a half hours every day.
Her new book, ‘The Parents Guide to Divorce,’ argues for parents to leave bad marriages rather than stay together for the kids.
‘Although divorce is really bad for all children in one way or another, a good divorce, a healthy divorce, is better than a bad marriage. There are ways to mitigate the damage.’
