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In a single year, I handled more penises than most people will ever encounter in a lifetime. Roughly 400, if we’re counting.

I wasn’t a physician. I wasn’t a nurse. I was an actress in Los Angeles trying to make rent.

For one surreal stretch in LA, I helped treat hundreds of men for erectile dysfunction, including professional athletes, wealthy tech types and a few faces so famous you’d recognize them instantly.

Los Angeles runs on side hustles. Struggling actors serve cocktails, walk dogs, hand out supermarket samples and sell wellness products with missionary zeal. My gig involved medical lubricant, a device that looked like a futuristic ray gun and an astonishing amount of male anxiety.

On paper, my job title was “certified shockwave therapy technician,” which sounded impressively clinical until you learned how I earned it: a one-day seminar in Tucson. That was it. One day, start to finish.

I hadn’t applied for that role. I was originally hired as the office manager, the person answering calls, folding towels and trying not to kill the sad little plant in the waiting room. 

Then the owner heard Joe Rogan talk about shockwave therapy — non-invasive treatment, acoustic waves, better blood flow — and almost overnight, our office reinvented itself as a “men’s wellness” clinic with a very lucrative new service. 

Two weeks after that, I was flying to Arizona to learn everything I was apparently supposed to know about erections.

After that, men would pay thousands of dollars, lie down, stare at the ceiling, and every so often look up at me like they were doing the math out loud: ‘How is this your job?’

They weren’t wrong to ask.

I assumed it would be simple, clinical, basically transactional. You move a wand around, you make small talk, you mentally rehearse audition sides so you don’t think too hard about the fact that you’re touching a stranger’s sacred schlong for rent money. 

How hard could it be, or not hard, as it were.

Then my first client started crying before I even touched him.

His name was Tom, and in my own little burst of performance anxiety I called him Tim. He was mildly famous, which didn’t help. 

Neither did the fact that he was lying on the table wearing nothing but a cashmere sweater and oddly patterned dress socks, and the ultrasound gel made the kind of sound you wish no product would ever make in front of another person.

We didn’t laugh. Not out loud. ED was serious, even if the fact that I was an actor was comical.

Tom told me he hadn’t let a woman see him naked since his wife died. Forty-five years married. Cancer took her too soon. He’d met someone new, someone he actually liked, but whenever things got close his body shut down.

‘I feel like I’m cheating on her,’ he said. ‘I should be dead, not her.’

And then he made me promise the treatment would work. That he’d be okay. That he’d get his life back.

This is where I should restate my credentials: one day, Tucson.

I wasn’t trained for grief. I was barely trained for shockwave therapy. So I did the only thing I could actually do with confidence.

I listened.

It took me exactly one day to understand the obvious: the job wasn’t really about broken penises. Not in the way I’d pictured it. The penis was just the doorway. The rest came flooding in behind it.

At my peak, I ended up working more than 50 hours a week, treating men from 18 to 80. Retired ballers. Big Tech executives. Celebrities I’d seen on billboards. Regular husbands from a few streets away who told their wives they were at the gym. Men splitting the payments across three credit cards.

On my table, they all looked the same.

Eyes fixed upward. Hands that couldn’t stop fidgeting. A laugh that came out at the wrong time. A desperate attempt to normalize their predicament. Nothing flattens status like a penis that won’t cooperate.

The body part we attach so much power to, I learned, is often where a man feels most powerless. In that room, titles vanished. Bank accounts vanished. Even swagger had a way of evaporating right along with the pants.

My most famous client came in after hours. I treated it like a covert operation, scrubbed the room like I was hiding evidence, dimmed the lights, lemongrass in the diffuser, the whole spa-murder-mystery vibe.

And then he walked in and, annoyingly, looked even better than he did on the giant billboard I drove past daily. Someone help me.

Only one issue: he didn’t have erectile dysfunction.

He’d read that shockwave therapy might make him bigger.

He did not need to be bigger.

I’m saying that with a full year of context. He was perfect, the kind of perfect that feels like it was 3D printed. That smutty romance novels are based on. Yet there he was, one of the most wanted men on earth, lying on my crinkly paper-covered table, certain there was still something to upgrade.

That was the theme, really. The guy juggling three credit cards and the guy whose face towered over Sunset Boulevard – same core belief.

I’m the only one who isn’t enough.

Before this, I had a neat little theory: ED is about sex. Men like sex. Men like erections. So men will pay absurd amounts of money to keep having both.

It sounded tidy. It lasted maybe a week.

A professional model, a man whose body was literally his paycheck, once asked if I could reshape his anatomy. He didn’t like that it was fuller at the base than the top. He wanted it remodeled.

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Like a kitchen.

Then there was a guy who ran a massive tech company. He swaggered in talking about his open marriage, popped collar, cologne arriving a full minute before he did. 

Three treatments in, he admitted his wife was in love with someone else. He’d agreed to open the marriage because she wanted to.

‘She always comes home,’ he said.

Four words, and you could feel an entire marriage clinging to them.

One of my favorite clients was a Teamster, he drove transportation on movie sets, and paying for treatment was a real stretch. His problem wasn’t medical at all. His girlfriend wanted to role-play as a mermaid.

And she needed him to be a sea urchin.

‘I don’t know how to act like a sea urchin, man,’ he told me. ‘She’s going to break up with me.’

Finally, something I was actually trained for.

I am an actress.

So we workshopped it. I wish I could say we nailed the role. What I can say is that the room was the great equalizer. Men who ran boardrooms. Men who sold products with their abs. Men who were famous enough to need the after-hours slot. Men who drove those men to set.

When their pants came off, under the money, the fame, the bravado, it was usually the same quiet question.

Am I enough?

Once they realized I wasn’t going to laugh, or judge them, or tell anyone what happened in that room, they talked. About getting older. About wives and affairs and divorce. About cancer and fear and money. About bodies they didn’t recognize anymore. About the sickening thought that something essential had just stopped working.

I started to see how often the body was the only place these men were allowed to fall apart.

And in a strange way, acting had prepared me better than any medical training I didn’t have.

People think acting is pretending. It’s not. You learn how to live inside someone else’s truth without punishing them for it. You can’t play a character you secretly despise, the audience can feel it.

For 20 years I called that ‘craft.’ I mostly thought it had gotten me good at handling rejection and taught me every shortcut to hack LA traffic at rush hour.

In that small treatment room, holding some of the most highly regarded VIPs (read: very important penises) it turned into my secret weapon.

I knew how to make people feel safe enough to stop performing.

The men on my table didn’t need another person evaluating them. They needed one place where they didn’t have to put on a show. The machine did what it did for blood flow. But someone still had to sit with the shame.

Except there was one man’s shame I didn’t know how to sit with yet.

My father’s.

He died a week after I got ‘certified’ in Tucson. As I began spending my days hearing strangers confess the things they couldn’t say to anyone, his ashes were still in a cardboard box in my mother’s kitchen, right next to the salt and pepper.

My dad and I weren’t close. He could be charming and missing at the same time, verbally cruel and beloved at the country club. I spent most of my life holding him to a standard he never hit.

After he died, my sister told me something I hadn’t known. Years earlier, she’d gone with him for a second opinion about his prostate cancer. The doctor laid out treatment options, then mentioned, like an afterthought, that treatment would leave him permanently impotent.

My sister said she watched something leave his face.

She thinks that’s when he died the first time.

Suddenly I could see him in a way I never had. Not my father, the role. Just a man, scared out of his mind, being told that the thing he’d tied to manhood would never work again.

For a year, I’d been giving strangers the compassion I never figured out how to give him. Men who didn’t raise me. Men who never disappointed me. Men who hadn’t broken my heart.

Turns out I’d been rehearsing.

The hardest character I ever tried to inhabit without condemning was my own father.

I walked into that clinic thinking I was there to fix broken penises. What I actually watched, over and over, was men trying to pick their dignity up off the floor.

After hundreds of clients, famous, broke, married, widowed, peacocking, terrified and yes, sometimes asking for sea-creature guidance, I learned something I wish I’d understood much sooner.

When another human being can sit next to your shame and not flinch, something in you shifts.

I might have been the least medically qualified person in that building. But for that piece of the job, the part that mattered most, I’d been training for it my whole life.

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